This new door that opens for us should be exciting, challenging! It should be what I’ve been dreaming of for years, something for us, just us, no boss, no timing, and yet I can’t get into it. The thing is, I really want it. I have sat in front of the mirror and I have asked myself: ‘what I want in life’ and my answer is always… ‘change for the better’. I have always wanted to have more time with my husband, Roger, so that he can share the vacation that I have with our children and get lost because he has to be at work. So this is it, we can do it now, we have finally been given the best chance we have ever been given. (Third lucky time!)… And yet now that I have this fantastic opportunity, I can’t get my butt going … why?

Ever since Roger started this new online trading venture, I have supported him the entire time, even through the agonizing stages of freeing up money to invest in him, money that we had saved for years and years for that ‘rainy day’. It’s true, that rainy day had come early this year, and like it or not, we had to do something to change our business if we were to continue and improve our lifestyle. Things had gotten so bad, that all the years of hard work until then could have slipped from under our feet in no time!

At first I have to admit that I was scared, it’s scary to part with money to do something new. It was not only new but different, so because it was something I was not familiar with, I felt nervous and concerned. I have to say it was one of the most painful things we had to do in recent times … but no ace painful as the thought of losing what we built and could potentially lose.

After thinking about myself and going through the pros and cons in my head, I kept getting to the same point … which was … if I really want to do this, if I really want a change, then in order. To get to the level I want, I have to commit myself; I have to sacrifice something, go through a pain, to ease the pain that could be, if we did nothing at all. I thought back to 12 years ago when Roger “fired” his old boss to start an offline business. That was really stressful and probably the most painful time I can remember going through. However, what kept us strong was the idea of ​​creating a strong and successful foundation for our new family that we were about to start. When we established our brick and mortar business, we had to pay a lot of money … more so that we re-mortgaged our house, even before we bought it !! We asked for more money than we really needed to buy the house!

The point is that humans have a problem with change. We want it, but we don’t like the transition part! Well I know I do. Now I realize that as I grew up, I missed a lot of things because I was more of the “spectator” and not the “stock taker.”

Some people seem to be able to take it easy and switch with the click of a finger. Roger seems to be that kind of person; If I didn’t know him that well, I’d say that he was able to change too easily and that there was no pain in his thought process. Could not be farther from the truth!

I’ve known him for about 23 years, I’ve been married for 18 of them, and one thing I can say is that he ‘yes’ is in a lot of pain. The only difference between the two of us is that he has the ability to feel pain in the long term, the “worse” pain of the two of us, say, than it could be if we didn’t go through pain in the short term. You just have to look at me and the girls and the idea of ​​not spending that precious time together. Then you have the CONFIDENCE and MOMENTUM to make the change happen. He is our family leader and we sit firmly beside him! Others would do well to have the same privilege as us!

It is an incredible ability, but it is not exclusive to any of us; we can all have it. It depends on how much you want to change your life; how much you want to be successful for your family; how much time you want to spend with your family; how much you want to help those around you; And finally, how much you want to give back and help others improve their lives, because everyone is so deserving, ‘YES’ they are willing to sacrifice a little!

Unfortunately, there are more people like me who are perhaps too scared to change that much. Sometimes we get caught up in that frame of thought …“Well, we are not doing very well, but again there are others who do much less than us” … and thus feel comfortable with the pain we are used to. It’s almost unthinkable to have to go through ‘Major Pain’ to get to the other side, unless things get so bad that you simply have to do something!

I am lucky, I have a solid husband and friend by my side, whom I now know ‘IS’ as scared, but perhaps I am a little more courageous in knowing that the unattainable is not achieved without trying and going through temporary pain. , to get where we want to be!

For now, I’ve left behind those questions of doubt, questions like, ‘Are we doing the right thing? Should we be doing something new at this stage in our lives? I can’t motivate myself, should I give up? ‘…

I have not fully understood the business of “online network marketing” like him. He has built and continues to knowingly absorb into it. I’ve tried, but it seems like I hit a barrier all the time, why? Maybe it’s because I know I’m a spectator and not a stock taker?

It may be that you have too many goals to meet. So many that not a single one receives the attention I need to achieve it? So this brings me doubt and confusion and raises those doubting questions. If I had to fully focus on one, perhaps the others would follow in the order of the most important?

If you were to do this, it would increase a huge factor that you need to be successful. ‘CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF’. If I could prove to myself that I can achieve each of my goals by attacking one at a time, I would feel so much better about myself. My confidence is low right now, secretly it has been low since August, I know directly the reason for this ‘MY WEIGHT’: my weight goes up and down more times than a helium gas balloon! Why is that?

I realize that I am on top of the world when I am happy in myself, that is, slimmer, fitter. Then when I have overeat, I get lazy in my exercises, I put on weight and then I realize that I am less confident, I do not go out much, I doubt more negative in things. I know this affects my family because I become less fun, less motivating.

Typical Roger, he just handed me one of the Tony Robbins tapes for me to listen to. “Unleash the power within” …

This is worth listening to too! Simply put, all we need is ‘Believe in yourself’. As Tony says on the tape, “… you need to change the elements you ‘should’, to a consistent ‘must’ …”

Once you have this and can focus on your goal, then ‘TAKE A MASSIVE ACTION’!

Julia