Women often wonder why he left. What did I do? Most women and men also want a mutually satisfying relationship. Harmony, peace and getting along with each other is what many people seek. If your goals for your relationship are not the same, you will experience problems. If your desire for a permanent relationship is different from your guys, pay close attention. You can chase it away without trying. Men leave women who try to pressure them into a commitment before they are ready.

Are you pressuring him to commit?

Maybe you’ve been with your guy for what you consider “long enough” and you’re ready to settle down and make this relationship permanent. You give numerous clues and try to talk to him about it. Perhaps you are listening to the loud ticking of his biological clock reminding you that it is time to settle down and get married. If you are experiencing this and find your guy becoming more distant instead of more committed, maybe commitment is NOT what he wants. He may not have any intention of marrying you.

If this is the case, what should you do?

If you feel like your man isn’t ready for a commitment and you are, the first thing to do is step back and see what’s really going on. If it could be that you are moving forward with your own agenda and he is not ready for it. It could also mean that you are with a guy who is serial dating but is never quite ready to move on. You need to honestly assess and take stock of what’s going on in your relationship before you decide to talk to him. Every relationship is different. As you step back and decide who (if anyone) has a commitment problem, be prepared to face facts, even if you don’t want to. If one of you is willing to commit and the other party is not; you have to decide what your options and your actions will be. Pressuring your partner to commit is not the best thing to do. Even if he’s never going to commit to you, it’s best to end it without drama. You will end up hurt and full of resentment.

It is not easy to look at our behavior sometimes, but it is certainly necessary. We all want healthy and happy relationships. If you find yourself covering the same ground in your love life, taking a hard look at this area can help you move toward better dating and relationship success.